VAMA LOVE – YOU CAN DIE

As the saying goes “Vama love you can die”. It’s true, you can really die. It goes without literal explanation as we have seen love take people physically and even for the survivors there’s a part of their lives that dies as well. Here are some deaths that are likely to be triggered by vama love.

1.Vama love you can die Emotionally


Many are times people become emotionally shut out and aggressive. This is usually due to a previous bad experience where they got hurt and decided to never let any other human being in. Emotional death is so real that if you haven’t experienced it before you probably know 2/3 people that have. This is so powerful that even though the deceased tend to hide it with all sorts of excuses, however they are always betrayed by their own actions and one can easily tell that “mmmhhh achemwaliwa emotionally anapita, tikhoza kukakamiza zithu koma siziyendapo apa”

2. Vama love you can die morally

Ever head of the “Bad girl RIRI theory”? Yep that’s a practical example of dying morally. Many are the times we’ve seen and become wild ourselves after a breakup to a point that we forget all our moral standards. The pain and depression that we go through makes us question all that we believed in and stood for such that we get to point where we just say “screw it!!” And become that wild cat. The thing about dying morally is you can’t hide it; it becomes so evident to you and the people around. Personally I would say it takes a lot of self-finding and God’s grace to come out of this wildcat-self that you have become otherwise no one can really do it for you, they can try but trust me I know the eagerness of the heart when it wants what it wants.

3.Vama love you can die Spiritually

Close to dying morally is dying spiritually, actually this usually happens before the moral death. Back to the Bad Girl RiRi theory. Breakups tend to put everything into question the moment they happen and usually one of the most questionable thing is our faith. The question is always “where was God when this happened, why did he let this happen, aah this nigga basi” ( and we think tikhoza kumutuluka mulungu , funny lol) so our Christian practices drop (personal reading of the word , prayer time etc.) before we know it we are dead spiritually which later on leads to dying morally at the fastest pace you can ever imagine.
These two deaths do not only happen after a break up, at times they occur during a relationship. The fact remains that “we are who we hangout with”. This is to say, never underrate the power of association. In this case if you get romantically associated with someone having different moral and spiritual values or they may have them but maybe just at a different level to yours, be ready for the slow death. The sad news is dying spiritually has got massive consequences on you as a whole being, but this is a story for another day.

4. Vama love you can die Financially

Unlike the past 3 points this one usually happens before the break up. This dying happens while living at the same time, during that honeymoon phase, when it’s all Roses and chocolates, but it’s fast realized after the break up like what!!!, my money, my time, my resources etc. By now I guess it’s a fact that love/relationships do need and highly require money and, in that moment, when all is good, investing in that beloved person doesn’t seem to be a bother and it shouldn’t be. The only thing that hurts is when you realize that you were mis-investing. Kufa kawiri pathumba ndi muntima.

5. Vama love you can die Mentally.

To top up all the other 4 points, in love you can die Mentally, I mean it’s not a shock any more in Malawi to hear “anapenga misala chibwezi /banja litatha” . For reasons that only God knows, love tends to have the strongest drive on our actions. Our actions are as a result of our mental sanity and if this love we give out or receive is disoriented in one way or the other, that becomes chaotic for the mental system. Many are the cases where proper hardworking professionals have cost or almost costed their careers after a mental breakdown whose genesis was vama love.
If you have been close to me long enough, you know how much I value my mental health, like I don’t play games on this matter. If you are giving me overwhelming stress you gotta go. We’ve no beef at all but I’ve to look out for me at all costs. Mental breakdowns are not fun I had several of them in 2018. they costed me my class grades and almost my life, I would never want to go through that again.

6. Vama love you can die physically

And in worst case scenarios, suicidal thoughts or murder itself can take place and in love people do die actual deaths.

How do we prevent these deaths?

Well there’s no specific FORMULA perse, but if you ask me, I’ll probably tell you that “there’s no better place to die than in Love”, I mean isn’t that literally what Christ did ? He died for us because he deemed us worthy. So, if you deem your partner worthy, go down chagada malume.
This blog was not to keep you from loving and being in relationships. Go ahead Live, Love and Laugh but as you go know what you are putting on the line.

It would also be politically incorrect to only focus on the death I mean all the points stated above can be reversed and in vama love you can LIVE emotionally, morally, spiritually, financially and happily ever after. We’ve seen people whose lives have tremendously transformed in all those areas all because of love, (that’s a blog for another day) So again I say “go And LIVE LOVE & LAUGH.”